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Sunday, February 13, 2011

Handshake- Basics


Delivering a proper handshake can make or break your first impression on a person. A handshake that's too limp or weak can convey weakness or lack of self-confidence, while one that's too strong or crushing can convey hostility. A well-executed handshake is one that conveys self-confidence, trust, and a genuine interest in the other party.

Do the following:

  • Extend your right hand enthusiastically outward.
  • See that you have a 45% bend at the elbow.
  • Shake with your whole hand, not just your finger tips).
  • Use a medium-firm grip -- not too hard, nor too soft.
  • Keep your fingers together.
  • Cup or round your hand slightly.
  • Hold the grip for one to two seconds.
  • Position your thumb so that it touches the back of the other person’s hand.
  • Make sure your hand is neither on top or on the bottom, rather keep your wrist positioned vertical to the floor.
  • Make eye contact.
  • Smile!
Getting on the web
  • One test for a good handshake is to see if you can “get on the Web.”
  • A great handshake happens when your web, or the loose, fleshy skin located between your index finger and thumb, connects with theirs.
How to give a hand hug
A hand hug is a modified handshake that uses both hands. To give a hand hug:
  • Engage in a normal handshake.
  • With your right hand in a proper grip, firmly cup the back of the other person’s hand with your left hand. It’s almost as if you are using both of your hands to create a “hand-sandwich.”
  • People giving a hand hug are often perceived as being caring and compassionate. The hand hug can be used to comfort an individual or it can be used when delivering hard to hear news. Similarly it can be used as a sincere gesture when delivering praise or when expressing gratitude. 
Take the handshake challenge. Select five individuals who you know will provide you with honest feedback.
Shake hands with them and ask them, “If you could change one thing about my handshake, what would it be.” Make these changes and receive additional feedback.

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